Every once in a while, you see an attractive woman cozying up alongside a graying man and, if you are like most people, ask yourself “What is going on there?”
Though there is a bit of a social stigma attached to it, you might be surprised by the top ten reasons why men date younger girls. When it comes to pairing people of such disparate ages, there are all sorts of hurdles to be cleared – which is why those who make it work ought to be admired instead of treated with suspicion. Love truly knows no bounds sometimes.
He is Naturally Energetic
Strange as it may sound, some people are blessed with an unexplainable vigor well into middle age and beyond. They can bounce from place to place without slowing down while others have to stop for rest every few minutes. If the man in question is this type, he may be dating younger women due to the fact they are better able to keep up with him.
A lot of people look back on their youth and feel as though they didn’t have their heads screwed on straight then. In many cases, this could be true, but occasionally there is a young girl out there who is wise beyond her twenty-something years. Older men are always more inclined to appreciate intellect and nuanced understanding, so encountering an attractive woman who has those qualities often puts age by the wayside.
Older Women Are Unavailable
Think about this for a moment: How many single ladies do you know that are over 40? Younger than 30? It’s a no-brainer, right? Most women are happily married by the time they are in their mid-30s, which means a guy may have to look to younger girls in order to find someone available. Though this trend shifts as generations age – the numbers will favor him if he’s after a woman over 60 – many times there are more options among those who were born a decade later.
He’s Been Burned Before
It might catch you off guard, but one of the reasons why men date younger girls often has to do with heartbreak. If he has been through a divorce or a string of bad relationships, he may decide to see if someone younger than him will appreciate him more than the women his age. The desire to be treated with respect is a major characteristic of all men, which leads them to seek it out wherever they can find it when pursuing a long-term relationship (or a job, for that matter).
There is More in Common
At first glance, many people wonder what a man would have to talk about with a younger woman, yet a relationship cannot progress unless there is a decent foundation built upon good conversation or shared interests. Let’s say, for example, he is an amateur triathlete, spending a large portion of his free time running, swimming and biking to stay in shape. Doesn’t it seem more likely he would be able to find someone with a similar passion amongst women in their 20s than their 30s or 40s?
His Expectations Are Different
Like it or not, the ability to match up wants and needs is a major component in a relationship. Two people who are eager to have children will be more likely to work things out than one who wants to have kids and another that is uncertain. An older guy may be in just that position – having lived without children for an extended period of time and hoping to have a son or daughter to raise means he has to look for a woman who has a better chance of getting pregnant. Younger girls will fit the bill every time (if they are ready to have kids, that is).
He Works in a “Young” Industry
You may think it’s a cop-out, but the fact of the matter is we are often the product of our environment. If you know of an executive in the fashion industry, the likelihood he is around younger women all the time is extremely high. (For better or for worse, of course.) We are, by nature, creatures of habit. Given a day-to-day routine where we are surrounded by people from a different generation, it is that much more likely we will end up attracted to someone and developing a relationship with them.
Connecting is Easier for Him
One of the world’s worst kept secrets is the difficulty men have approaching women. For some, this is made easier by talking to someone several years their junior – say five to ten years. A younger girl, whether she is 20 or 40, is likely to be impressed by an older man taking an interest in her. When he is more comfortable, his relaxed charm will be more evident, making it more likely he will be successful in his pursuit. The simple fact he is able to feel even a little more confident can be the difference between going out on a date or not asking at all.
He Just Wants To
The underlying theme in all of these reasons he might date younger girls? Personal choice. No matter what anybody else thinks, consenting adults can do pretty much whatever they choose to. It might mean skydiving or playing video games, it could be eating a whole pizza or forming relationships with women born ten years after he was. Either way, so long as he isn’t doing anything illegal or attempting to manipulate women for his own gain, there is no way to keep it from happening. Some guys just want to. Good for them.
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