Trying to find romance is tough, regardless of who you are – when you have a child or two at home, it seems impossible!
If you want to get back out on the singles scene without suffering in the bars, follow these ten dating tips for single mothers.
Will they make everything perfect? Of course not! You might, however, have a much better time in searching for the right guy to share your life (and your kids) with.
Realize You Have Plenty of Options
First and foremost, before you begin to get down thinking you are the only woman who is dealing with the challenges of dating as a single parent, realize there are many out there just like you – fathers and mothers alike. What does this mean?
You have choices in terms of who you date and help for when you need a babysitter. Believe it or not, the most helpful thing you might find by building a support network is someone who can give you a night off. Once you accept there is a lot out there working in your favor, you will discover there are plenty of potential matches available.
Understand Your Wants and Needs
As you really begin your search in earnest, this will be one of the most important tips you will find: figure out what qualifies as “success” in your romantic pursuits.
Can you handle blending two families? Are you looking for a man with particular religious beliefs? What common interests would you like your guy to have? Thinking through all of this will help you come to grips with what it is you are after – and it is much easier to go on the hunt when you know that.
Try to Focus on Your Date – At First
You are a parent, which means the primary topic in your head 99% of the time is your children. When you are dating, particularly early on, you want to do your best to talk with your date about everything but your kids. Does this mean you pretend they don’t exist? No way! Just be aware of the fact you are there to learn more about the guy across the table – just as he is trying to get to know you – and it can be very distracting to hear about Little Johnny most of the evening.
Remember You’ve Got “It”
This tip is a bit of a follow-up to the previous one, yet is worth mentioning all on its own. Chances are you spend most of your time thinking of yourself as “Mommy.” For many women, whether they are single mothers or not, rearing children becomes a key part of their identity – they forget the person they were as young and care-free women who didn’t have kids and, consequently, believe they have little else to offer.
That’s not true. You may have to spend some time getting in touch with yourself again, but there is someone in there who will knock the socks off any man within a 50-foot radius. Let her out.
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