Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] of 7 years, he does something that is ruining our relationship
My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years (pretty much since high school) and we’ve had a great relationship. We went to school together, so we met there, and it’s been really great. We fought like a normal couple at first but then we were pretty happy with each other for very long.
I guess you can say we’ve grown up together. We started college around the same time but I’ve been more serious about my college career than he has (which is cool because college really isn’t for every one). He has more of an entrepreneurial spirit.
Anyway, recently he’s been getting REALLY entrepreneurial with things that might not be legal in our state. At first it was exciting… Then I realized how much time he spent away from me. I was also very scared for anything to happen.
He knows exactly how I feel. He stopped doing it… Then he started again… I got mad and sad and all types of emotions. We got into huge fights that led us to the brink of breakups. Then he stopped again.
He says he loves me. And I know he does. I mean 7 years with someone is no joke…
So now he tells me that he’s glad I’m happy but he feels as if I stopped him from being himself. He said he was proud of what he did and he wants to start again.
I love this guy. So…. I’m in a pickle.
PLEASE: Don’t judge the entrepreneurial spirit. I’ve heard it before and I’m here for relationship advice.
tl;dr: My boyfriend of 7 years does something for a living (Not so legal entrepreneur) that makes me uncomfortable. He’s stopped doing it for me before, but now he wants to do it again because he says he doesn’t want me controlling his life decisions.
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