I (23/M) cannot get this girl (21/F) out of my head, and I hardly even know her!!
So last year I very briefly met this girl. She was a temporary singer at my church and the first day I saw her I could not get over how beautiful she was. I knew nothing about her and yet I could not stop thinking about her. However, every time I thought about talking to her or introducing myself I would chicken out, and this went on for several weeks.
Nearing the end of the college semester, (I was student teaching) she suddenly announced that she would be leaving, and on that day I finally ( I guess out of desperation) talked to her verrryy briefly. It was only afterwards that I realized I would probably never see her again, and so I messaged her on Facebook (ugg I know) asking if she would like to meet for coffee.
She didn’t respond for two weeks, so I basically gave up hope, but then she messaged me back explaining she had had finals. She told me she was home for the summer now but would potentially like to hang out in the fall. We also chatted for a few more hours which only increased my desire to meet up with her and get to know her better.
Fast forward to this past fall, where again I messaged her on Facebook (uggh again) but I really saw no other recourse for talking to her. (Any other means of communication struck me as super creepy because of how little I knew her) This time she didn’t answer me at all. Yes I do realize this means she is not interested and I can’t say I blame her, I don’t know how I would respond if the situation was reversed, so I’ve spent the last few months trying to forget all about it. For some reason I can’t get her out of my head. I’ve never been one to give up on things, and so I find myself trying to think of one final way to attempt to talk to her or meet her to talk even once. I realize the absurdity of it but I don’t know what else I can do. I’ve never thought this much about a girl, and I don’t even know her. Does anybody have any advice for what I can do in this situation? Even if it is «you’re stupid, move on» it’s probably something I need to hear. I appreciate anybody that takes the time to read all of this or respond.
tl;dr: Met a girl, hardly know her and will probably never see her again, but I can’t stop thinking about her. Any advice for what I should do or how I could communicate with her?
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