1. IF YOU MAKE THIS A BIG ISSUE, THEN EXPECT IT TO TAKE THE FOCUS AWAY FROM DEVELOPING TRUE ROMANTIC CHEMISTRY.
Not all men can make the adjustment. A smart woman will recognize this and do her best to gauge how much of an issue this is for the man. If his male ego gets in the way of his true love for a woman, then an intelligent female has to move on.
2. DON’T STEAL HIS THUNDER IN THE BEGINNING.
In the courtship stage, it’s important that a man show his interest in winning her over by doing romantic things. These things usually require him to spend money. So let him do this and adjust to a more reasonable budget and some shared expenses later on.
3. THE MAN IS RESPONSIBLE FOR BEING SECURE IN HIMSELF.
As long as he sees himself as being successful in his own world, the woman’s success shouldn’t be much of a problem. It’s only a problem if he thinks less of himself or becomes too macho about an outdated or inappropriate role as the warrior, protector, and provider. He should be thinking that the woman who chooses to be with him is not after his money or for him to pay her way. She’s looking for a man who treats her with kindness, thoughtfulness, and respect. This is a good thing for an enlightened man.
4. BE PREPARED TO SHARE EXPENSES EVENLY OR IN PROPORTION TO YOUR RESPECTIVE INCOMES AS THE RELATIONSHIP DEVELOPS.
This is a more emotionally mature and logical way of handling the topic of money. Do this for non-romantic items and leave some play for those things that are either fun, romantic, or insignificant in their cost.
5. TOO MUCH OF A GAP IN INCOME MAY SIGNAL AN EQUALLY LARGE GAP IN VALUES AND LIFESTYLES.
Sometimes opposites attract initially. It can be very interesting in the beginning of a relationship. But over time, commonality and compatibility are necessary for growth. Sometimes differences in success are the result of differences in education. If that is the case, then a woman would be more suited for a man who is closer to her equal.
6. A MEGA-SUCCESSFUL WOMAN WON’T HAVE THE TIME TO ATTEND TO MANY TRADITIONAL CHORES. A MAN MUST WELCOME THE ADJUSTMENT.
A successful woman will usually have to work longer hours because of her greater responsibilities in the workplace. A man may have to provide some support by cooking dinner, buying groceries, or cleaning the house periodically. He will usually get compensated by her sincere appreciation and understanding. Helping out with these kinds of chores and not a big deal about will help the chances of this type of relationship. A man who is firmly stuck in the traditional male and female roles will not work well in this situation.
7. A SUCCESSFUL WOMAN WILL NOT TOLERATE A LAZY MAN FOR VERY LONG.
A man doesn’t have to make a ton of money in his chosen profession, but he should be doing his best, have passion for his work, and display some sort of ambition. Otherwise, this kind of relationship will build up the kind of resentment that truly tests the quality of the attachment.
THE BOTTOM LINE
Income and status aren’t issues unless a couple makes them that way. Succeeding in a relationship in this environment requires both participants to adjust their roles, rules, and responsibilities so that the focus is on the bigger issue….love.
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