My Boyfriend Always Remains Busy In His Work And He Doesnt Have Time To Meet Me And To Talk To Me. I Know That He Loves Me A Lot But Sometimes I Get Frustrated And Shout At Him. What Should I Do As I Miss Him A Lot?
esha joshi asked
Andy Lau Chi Zhing answered
Hey Esha, this happens pretty often. It has happened with me a lot many times as well. I am quite busy these days, buy my girlfriend has loads of time. As a result she gets frustrated that we hardly talk, meet, etc. We end up arguing and fighting over the phone, which is not good for a relationship. It is a part and parcel of the relationship but then we both try and resolve it and make the best of what we can.
What matters the most is that he still loves you and you love him as well. You are missing him a lot and it’s natural. We always miss our loved ones. I would suggest you to try and get something planned out. For instance, a movie or lunch in a place which is convenient to the both of you is a good idea. Just spend a few hours with him. Talk to him, laugh and just look right into his eyes-he’ll love all of these things. Due to my busy schedule, my girlfriend and I hardly meet the entire week.
Sometimes the most is twice a week. But we keep aside one day just for ourselves, usually on Fridays. On this day of the week, we go out together and have loads of fun.
Esha, you should understand his situation and give him some breathing space, but I think what is most important is for him to know that he needs to take time off to spend it with you. I will definitely not blame you for how you feel, but shouting and quarrelling will just makes things worse. So, refrain from loosing your cool. Let him know that you miss him a lot and tell him that you want to go out, on a certain day, time, etc.
When you meet him, give him a warm tight hug and let him know that you really missed him and you love him very much. Feelings are best expressed that way and he feels appreciated, and would realise that he has neglected you for a long time.
Over the time, I’m sure that he will start to put aside a day or at least a few hours
just to spend with you. Don’t forget, it’s always good to be tolerant with your loved ones. Understanding each other will take you both a long way.
Andy Lau Chi Zhing commented
Oh, and do keep in touch through phone calls, and send him SMSs every now and then and he’ll feel very much more comfortable..that way you wouldn’t be missing him that much, because at least something is being said between the both of you.
Rajesh Kamal answered
Try to understand the boy’s position. Imagine what you would do if you were in his situation. If he is not productive in his work, then he will be stressed and the stress will affect your relationship. Personal relationships and professionalism are two different identities of a person. If your relationship with you is strong, he will definitely find a way to talk to you or write to you. Do not loose your cool.
Find someone who thinks you are important enough to spend time with. He doesn’t value the relationship enough to put the time into it. If it was important enough to him, he would make time to see you, bottom line!
Gillian Smith answered
If you live a great distance away and you’re only meeting up infrequently this doesn’t seem as if it’s really going to work out very well for you.
I think if your boyfriend really wanted to talk to you and meet you more often he would make time to do this.
Realistically I think you should come to terms with the fact that he he doesn’t seem to see this as a problem like you do. He might have another social life and not be missing you as much as you are him. Can you get to see him soon and tell him how you feel because I think that this relationship seems one sided and you’re suffering a lot more than he is.
If this carries on you’re missing out on a lot in life waiting for something I don’t think is ever going to really happen.
The fact that you are so far apart, see each other so little and he hasn’t got time to talk to you speaks volumes about the reality of the relationship.
You need to try and move on now.
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